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Happiness and Stress

As I sit at my little bistro table on my patio is sunny, warm California I’m contemplating how to Hit The Road Jenn! hang on to a bit of happiness in the face of life change stress.

I’m about to get up and continue the task of “what goes to Good Will and what moves with me”, sorting a life of accumulated stuff. Some with emotional connections to the event or the giver – somethings are more easy to let go.

What of my past life comes with me as I start into this adventure into the unknown?  I remember leaving home at 18 and being so happy to finally start “my” life.  Now there’s the knowledge of the paperwork, packing, sorting, figuring out where the new Whole Foods is, where to get a great mani-pedi and where the cool shoe stores are ; -)

I’ve loved my California life so it is bittersweet to leave.  So, how do I stay happy while staying goodbye to places, people, memories, getting focused and task oriented to get the job of moving done?

I was hoping by paragraph five I would have had an epiphany!  But alas, no….maybe another cup of coffee and packing procrastination will do the trick – heheheh.

I do keep thinking of the move as an adventure. I’m excited for the new hikes, getting involved with Geek Girls/Girls In Tech in my new town, oh and the new restaurants  shows, music and the exciting new opportunity that is drawing me there.  I am filled with gratitude for my life and my home here in Marin County.  I’ll miss Marin fondly I’m sure but I know the thrill of returning to a much loved place as a visitor so my love affair with the Bay is not over, just changing.  Plus SF is joining London, NYC and BVI of places that make me happy to visit!

Got tips for staying happy during big life changing events?  I’ll circle back in a couple months and let you know what worked…or didn’t work!

🙂

Jenn

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BOO! When Happiness Is Scary

We’ve all had those moments – utter despair, blinding rage, simmering anger.

It’s from that place that “happiness” is the most scary.

It’s scary because:

  • It’s almost inconceivable that we could be happy again
  • It’s such a huge shift that if feels uncomfortable to contemplate…much less actual do
  • It’s scary to fake it through because if you’ve lived long enough, you know that stuffing dispair, rage or anger just means it’s gonna leak out again later…probably at the most inconvenient time!

What to do?

First step: feel the feelings…no matter how uncomfortable.  If there is any way you get get alone for even 15 minutes to just have a crying jag or a hissy fit…it’ll help

Next:  don’t aim for happy, go for “neutral”.  Think about your basic human needs:  get enough sleep, eat healthy, nourishing foods, get out and breath fresh air, take a walk, exercise even.  Try to avoid sugar, alcohol and junk food…that stuff tends to take us on a roller coaster ride.  We feel better for a bit then wham we’re down again.  Try your own experiment here and see what works for you.

Then: When you’re at neutral, now it’s time to start thinking about being happy.  What made you happy in the past?  What are you dreaming about for the future.  What happy making things can you provide for yourself?

Need more tips?  Check out The Happiness Handbook for more info about how to clear the crap, decide what makes you happy, communicate it effectively and then…get your happy dance on.

This Halloween…hopefully only the trick-or-treaters will scare you!

🙂

Jenn

Portland Women Rock!

Had lunch with the new chapter of eWomen Network in Portland Oregon today.  What a great group!  If you’re an entrepreneur chica in Portland, be sure to check it out.  I joined eWomen in SF when I was coming out of my post divorce cocoon.  I hadn’t socialized in awhile and I’d lost my mojo.

eWomen gave me a safe place to practice my business pitch, get clear about what I needed for my business and…the courage to ask for what I needed.  That…all need practice.  Plus I met many great friends that I still have today 🙂

The best part of the day…my speech didn’t bomb this time 😉  It’s thrilling for me to be able to share a couple tips in just 20 minutes and see the light bulb “ah ha” moment go on in people’s brains.  Very fun!

Thanks Portland.  Hope to see you again soon.

🙂

Jenn